Suyuan Woo and Jing Mei Relationship

Suyuan and Jing-Meis kind in The Joy mickle Club In The Joy tidy sum Club by Amy Tan, Jing-Mei and her niggle have a very rocky blood. Tan develops a blood between Suyuan and Jing-Mei that is distant in the beginning due to culture differences and miscommunication, provided gradually streng thuss with time and understanding. Both of them have divers(prenominal) backgrounds and have been influenced by two different cultures. Suyuan grew up in China and behaves according to the Chinese culture and her Ameri laughingstock- born(p) little girl Jing-Mei is influenced by the American culture that surrounds her and wants to become expound of it.Their relationship is likewise do by the pressure Suyuan puts on Jing-Mei. She wants her to be a perfect Chinese girl. She expects her young lady to be smart, talented, and a reverent Chinese daughter. After Suyuan immigrates to America from China, she remarries and gives birth to a daughter, who she names Jing-Mei. Because Jing-Mei was born in America and therefore grew up in a different atmosphere, culture, and environment, the relationship between grow and daughter is tense.Suyuan Woo would continuously break Jing-Mei in the Chinese culture however, Jing-Mei did not care about this lineament of her background. When she was younger, and her arrest would tell her about the Joy great deal club, she, imagined Joy Luck was a shameful Chinese custom, comparable the secret gathering of the Ku Klux Klan or the tom-tom dances of TV Indians preparing for war, (Tan, 28). She did not understand the Chinese tradition and did not care learning about it. Suyuan wanted her daughter to live like an American, tho at the same time think like a Chinese.Jing-Mei felt humiliated with her begets Chinese behaviors, causing their relationship to be more distant. They did not understand one others cultural differences. However, this part of their relationship changes when Jing-Mei goes to China to see her half-sisters. After he r mother passes away, Jing-Mei travels to China to meet with her sisters and finally understands the Chinese culture that she had never determine before and now I see what part of me is Chinese. It is so obvious. It is my family. It is in our blood.After all these years, it can finally be let go, (Tan, 288) Also, their relationship is shaped by the pressure Suyuan puts on her daughter. When Jing-Mei was growing up, her mother had the need for her daughter to be smart, talented, and a respectful Chinese daughter. This pressure put on Jing-Mei resulted in misunderstanding between mother and daughter. Jing-Mei constantly believed, that she was disappointing her mother, because she felt as if she failed at everything her mother wanted her to do. She believed she could never be as perfect as her mother was.Therefore she doesnt think she is worthy becoming to take her mothers place at the Joy Luck Club They must wonder now how someone like me can take my mothers place (Tan, 27). Jing-Me i does not understand that her mother wanted the best for her Suyuan wanted Jing-Mei to challenge herself because that is how one builds up character. Suyuan thinks her daughter could do anything she proposed to do but never put enough front into anything Lazy to rise to expectations (Tan 31). Furthermore, Suyuan forced Jing-Mei to learn how to play the soft and then perform at a recital.Jing-Mei rebelled against her mother and refused to learn how to play the piano well. So, at the recital she ends up forgetting the music notes. Jing-Mei blames her embarrassment on her mother and states, You want me to be someone that Im not I sobbed. Ill never be the kind of daughter you want me to be (Tan 142). Suyuans high expectations for her daughter cause miscommunication and misunderstanding in their relationship. However, this relationship gradually changes as Suyuan passes away and Jing-Mei gets older and becomes an adult.Through reflecting on her mother and see China she starts to un derstand her mothers ways and actions and respects them. She also realizes that her mother always did love her and believed in her. Although Jing-Mei never believed that her mother authorize of her throughout the book it is present. An important moment is after the New forms dinner when Suyuan gives Jing-Mei her green jade pendant, calling it Jing-meis feel importance. Suyuan tells her daughter that the Jade isnt good quality, but it will improve with time. Jing-Mei is like this young jade, improving and deepening over time.Also, Suyuan tries to comfort her daughter when she is insulted by Waverly Jong and admires her for not choosing the best quality crab like everyone else but leaving the best ones for them and the worse one for herself. Therefore, because of cultural differences Suyuan and Jing-Mei have umpteen opposing ideas and beliefs. This coupled with their lack of communication are responsible for numerous of the problems they face during the course of their relation ship. These conflicts are only resolved when Jing-Mei reflects and learns about her mothers quondam(prenominal) and accepts their